#90 – The unselfishness trap
If you follow the thesis “the way to be happy is to sacrifice your happiness for the happiness of other people” to its logical conclusion for everyone—nobody in the world is ever going to be happy.
Imagine happiness as a small box. Since I want to be a “good person”, and “good people are unselfish”, I will pass the box to my neighbor.
But my neighbor wants to be a good person, so he will sacrifice his happiness to his spouse and pass to her the happiness box.
But the spouse doesn’t want to be selfish either, and so the box is passed to her sick aunt for whom she has no feeling of affection whatsoever but she passes the box anyway for “it is not good to be selfish”.
So “in an ideal world”, where everyone has been taught the virtue of unselfishness, no one clings to the box because no one wants to be selfish, and therefore no one is happy.
The irony is in the purpose of your unselfishness. Who’s getting happier? Who are we all sacrificing for? It would inevitably be a selfish person who is benefitting from your sacrifice—an immoral person by your standards.
*Inspired by Harry Browne’s How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World: A Handbook for Personal Liberty.
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